An End To Over A 10 Year Vehicle Relationship

In march of 2008, I purchased a nissan altima. It was my first car I had ever owned. This car was my most expensive purchase I had ever made. At the time, I didn't have any credit history with no credit cards, no debt, and or credit lines. I was 25 at the time. This car has so many memories throughout the years. I had been on dates in this car, also taking my sisters to different places for christmas shopping when they were much younger. When I bought this car, I was so proud of myself in having a fresh start.

 This was my vehicle I have had the longest. In Feb. 2015, I was in an accident where I guy ran a stop sign. The car protected me through the whole situation. Yes, it has had so many ups and downs in having great times and  down times in fixing the car. Many people don't think of vehicles as a personal story. In thinking about it, our vehicles are there even in failing events happen. No matter what they are always there for us. I purchased the car when it had 61k miles and when I sold the car there was almost 177k miles on it. The memories of when my father changed the fuel pump for free and even purchasing the part. The many runs with delivery of my sculptures. At time to begin and another time to end. A car that was there through thick and thin.

Make Your Conversations Count

As dealing with visiting with my grandparents and seeing their transition from going from their home to going to a retirement is a huge difference. Think about it, Can you pick having your freedom and ability to go where you want, when you want for 9 decades, then after falling, going to surgery to never going back to the home you worked for to own decades? Also working through, seeing your own wife not being here mentally and forgetting decades of memories to forgetting who family are. Plus, in coming to terms of outliving all of your father, mother, and siblings to having no one you knew growing up is still here.

At a certain point, it is a accomplishment to outlive all of your close family and at the same time a very challenging time. Anyone who does this, has to come to terms of it. In the mid part of time of this year since my grandparents have transitioned over to a retirement home, I have made it an intention to have meaningful conversations with my grandpa. Many things, we both wanted to say for years and didn’t have that kind of moment to share. My grandpa is very blunt and to the point. An style of being straight to the point is something many people need these days. Yes, it may hurt upfront however it is the honesty, we all crave to have. In knowing, each time this maybe the last time I get to see my grandpa, I make sure there is closure and a meaningful interaction. I had wanted to tell him for a long time. He needs to have an uplifting memmorable experience in what time he has left. The same goes for you. I’d like to hear your feedback and how you can relate.

Focusing On What's Not Important

What is the point of focusing on if another person has (job). A job is not who the person is. This is only an activity they choose to do within a certain frame of time. I find too many others tie personal worth to a job when as the world knows, could be here today and gone tomorrow. Especially in this ever evolving world now.

Why not focus on the value each person brings instead of what title they have? When each person only has a title it limits their potential of doing more on a personal and professional level. In this period of time some people have a full time business and a full time job. Bring more value within the memories to your clients is what matters in a special way. What really matters is the way you see yourself. From there, it reflects outwardly in the way you look, by the actions you take and the words you speak.

Negative People Situation

The conversations people have is the self reflection being mirrored outwardly. When people don't think things are possible, it has nothing to do with you. I once had a situation where a individual was trying to boost himself up and rush me in trying to purchase his services. At the same time, condescending  on where I am at in my business and capabilities. Talking down to potential clients is not the answer to your solution. If anything, the client will run and ignore.

Another thing is sometimes, no matter what you say, the individual will be offended because they want to be. If the other individual only wants to see everything all from their perspective, the whole situation will be missed in learning from the situation. From the people who don't have self reflection, it is best to leave them learn on their own. There is nothing you can do to help them, nothing you can say to help shift them. It is their own choice to be who they choose to be. These toxic people don't understand the emotion and decisions right now. Stay with those who are with you and help you grow from all different levels.

 I'd like to hear your story. How have you learned from toxic/negative people?

Focus On Happiness Instead of Your Temporary Situation

It is so easy to be swallowed up into the current state and situations to be occupied with being miserable. However why not focus on what helps others and in due time your situation will shift. As each year goes through, more stories through your efforts has impacted others, the perspective changes. In seeing things outside of yourself, the perception changes.

Make sure you take the time to see beyond yourself. Things change when you see life from the other side. Also if what you have done hasn’t work, examine all of you actions. Tweek what you have done and execute. Everyone successful has to examine what works and what doesn’t. This goes for art busienss, artists of all types and so on. By putting priorities on the high level. Consistent with each step, the better weight you will have in your desires.